oh, and i really thought "sunny day real estate" were an interesting and solidly musical combo, even though they helped pioneer "emo". i even worked on some of their stuff. but, i realize now the evil of their ways and don't praise them.
well, until i actually am told it's a slur by the organized and generalized coalition of folks who representative and have a reasonable argument to present, then i have to assume it only insults a couple of oversensitive folks out there. i'll happily stand corrected then, and will honestly remove the word from my lexicon.
as it stands right now, i have been told by many folks that it isn't a slur. and i have been told by only a couple that it is. so, educate me with info, not isolated opinion.
besides, a person's sexual interests is of no interest to me (well, maybe in a kinky sort of way). however, i view the term "fag" as a generalized area of interests describing taste and culture. men who have feminized interests (straight or not) are 'fags' in the cultural slang. it's origins are not sexual. the sexual reference is of very recent origin. the word "gay" is older usage and it's not necessarily a slur, either. calling someone "homosexual" isn't a slur, either. since when is it bad to be called "homosexual" in contemporary culture unless you are a bigot?
i can certainly think of a large number of terms that are certainly insulting. like i really hate being called an "artist", i find it degrading and belittling and more than a little stupid/ignorant. however, i don't run around condemining folks for using it. it seems trivial.
any professional-level activist gay folks out there who want to officially step in with the collective opinion?
but, this is a great poster. have you noticed the tv screen?